Communication

As I walk into a new relationship, I'm remembering my communication skills. When I thought about most of my past relationships, the vast majority of them ended because we didn't communicate. Either:

a) We both loved each other, and stopped communicating through difficulties.
b) I didn't communicate enough when I was finding fault.
c) They didn't communicate enough when they were finding fault.

Speaking of new boyfriends and loving yourself, a boy who buys your groceries, looks for moles on your skin, and treats you to whatever gifts and little things you want is fabulous.

Many couples find it hard to express how they feel for each other. They don’t know how to verbalize their needs and they don’t know how to listen carefully. If you are one of those people, then it might be time to read some tips for an effective communication.

* Be tactful. Before you even say something, you have to think about it. Is it something that you really have to tell your husband or wife? Do you really mean what you are going to say?
* Pay attention. When your spouse wants to say something to you, you’ve got to listen very carefully. Don’t just pretend that you are listening.
* Wait for your turn to talk and have some patience. When your spouse is talking, you need to listen first before you talk. Don’t interrupt the person. It’s a way of showing you respect your partner.
* Be honest about your feelings and thoughts. Don’t fabricate things to cover up your true emotions.
* Find time to talk. No matter how busy you are with your jobs and kids (if you have any), you need to find the best time to talk. You need to talk to understand each other.
* Express your resentments in a nice way. Don’t just keep it inside. Let the person know how you really feel. Don’t use silence as a weapon because it is deadly.

Settle your disputes by speaking and listening. It’s a give in take relationship. Can you do it? I know you can!